Partner support

We support both current and ex partners of individuals attending the perpetrator programme. We can support individuals in a heterosexual, gay, lesbian or transgender relationship, whether the perpetrator is male, female or non binary.
When we receive a referral for the perpetrator programme we ask for the contact details of any current or ex partners. We then reach out to these individuals to offer support.

We understand that you may be uncomfortable to talk about the abuse you have experienced. We will respond to your needs sensitively. 

The support we offer is led by you, by what you want and need. It is always your choice if you want to engage with us or not. We want to support you to feel safe and secure, whether you are still in the relationship or not. We support you to make decisions about your relationship that feel right for you.

We offer

Safety advice and information on other services available to you.

Support throughout the family court process, where your (ex) partner is on a contact activity order to undergo the programme and your case is being overseen by CAFCASS.

In-depth counselling to help you process your experiences. This can include work with issues such as trauma, anxiety and depression. We can offer work on any concerns or questions that you bring around your own patterns of relating. We can also work with any parenting issues or concerns and support you to make any decisions you feel are needed, about your future. 

Face-to-face support at our office in Plymouth or online or telephone support where appropriate. 

One off advice and information or on-going support for up to an additional six months following your (ex) partner completion of the programme. If your (ex) partner disengages from the programme we will continue with your support for up to six months.

We work in collaboration with other agencies to ensure the wellbeing and safety of you and any children in the family. You will always be included in communication with other agencies in accordance to our confidentiality policy.

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Will my (ex) partner know what I am getting support for? Know what I say?

Your partner support worker will treat all information about you confidentially, within Ahimsa. Whilst relevant information is shared within the service, it is never revealed to your partner or ex partner. Where there is a concern for the safety of you, your children or others, this will be discussed with you and shared with other agencies responsible for safety. 

Is it safe for me to attend if my ex partner is attending the programme?

Your safety and wellbeing is our priority. We will work with you to ensure you can access the service when it is safe for you to do so. Your (ex) partner will not know at any point if you have taken up the offer of support or not.

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Call us if you are unsure if the programme is for you. We can help you to reach a decision if you want to make a self-referral.

How we have helped others

Ahimsa have facilitated a couple of joint meetings between my ex-husband and
 I, meetings which would not have been possible without their input. These
 were extremely emotional and stressful for both of us as we covered some
very difficult subjects, which otherwise would not have been discussed.
These discussions greatly aided my recovery from being a 'victim' of my

Ahimsa is an invaluable lifeline to all involved in domestic abuse. The atmosphere is very calm, reassuring and boundried. The therapists are skilled and create the space and time needed for traumatised people to open up.

It is a great service that helped my family overcome what they were going through.

There are not enough words to express the significance of Ahimsa in my life.
 When I started seeing Marian I was extremely anxious,
depressed and feeling very vulnerable to the changes that were happening in
 my life, for both myself and my children. I simply could not see how it
 would ever me possible for me to have any sort of relationship with my
ex-husband, although I knew it was necessary for the sake of our children. 

To have a place of safety to discuss the difficulties I faced with my
 children's father, without judgement or consequence has been invaluable.
 Marian has helped me to overcome my memories of physical and emotional
 abuse, by helping me to understand it wasn't my fault, and more importantly 
that I didn't deserve it.

Marian has offered support and guidance in any aspect of my life which
I have brought to our session each week, giving me the tools and courage to
make some important life decisions along the way, often challenging my
thinking and helping me understand the driving forces behind that thinking. 

It makes me sad to think of what my life would have been if I had not taken
advantage of the Ahimsa partner service. Whilst it has been one of the
toughest journeys I have ever been on, and it's not yet over, it has been
the most rewarding and worthwhile experience of my life and I will be
forever grateful.

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Call us if you are unsure if the programme is for you. We can help you to reach a decision if you want to make a self-referral.
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